I believe dating is both an art and a science. You get to be good at it when you put those theories in practice. It is not about the quantity though, it is more on being able to deal with different types of people and getting lessons from these experiences. I am proud to have earned a masters, heh, which made me an expert in this topic.
If you happen to be a single (female) lawyer who has less luck in finding Mr. Right, this post will definitely help you avoid scaring off potential men. As much as possible, avoid these 5 pitfalls.
I count a number of lawyer friends well into their early 30's, still single. One was a friend from high school. Of course, the cupid in me offered to sort out the dating messes they have gotten themselves into.
We watch each others back through night outs, blind dates and stealth privacy in our cars in case of 'emergencies' if you know what I mean. Some of those friends might probably have a fit when they read this disclosure. Hi, sis! We are frenemies now. All to no avail, she's still single as of this very minute.
Anyways, here are 5 reasons you haven't found Mr. Right yet.
I am the 'catch'
Confident ladies, I know you feel like you are slaying it to a T! Being a lawyer has all its perks career-wise. Add to that the extra boost of confidence gained from experience.
No doubt you are the ultimate catch. But did you know that this same advantage could be your Achilles heel in acing the dating game?
Some enterprising males can single you out as easy prey. These experts, always on the prowl, are really good at what they do. I can assure you that years of legal practice won't be a guarantee to shield you from their wily charms.
The last thing you want is a man looking for an easy pass in life without needing to stretch a muscle.
I know this lady lawyer who is so heady in love with a foreign guy from another third world country. It made her blind she refused to see all the red flags.
You know why? In her mind, she is the ultimate catch. She firmly believes she is an Alpha female in the relationship.
I just find it so ironic how she easily fell under the spell of the deceiving guy, knowing she is a lawyer and could have know better.
Thinking you are the 'catch' will not always work to your advantage.
The belief that Mr. Right will find you
Never wait for love. You have to go out there, be seen and noticed! Your Prince Charming could just be lurking in the next corner but if you are nowhere to be seen, you will miss your chance.
Embrace change in your life. I am not talking about just changing your look. A change in attitude will do you more good. Be more confident in your worth as a woman.
Indeed, confidence is a tested men-magnet but you need to be out and about to flex your charms. Don't hide in the shadows and think Mr. Right will find you.
The myth that there are many fishes (a.k.a Single, Hot, Male lawyers) in the sea
In general, given a choice, men opt for younger women. This is just an undeniable natural selection theory in the works.
If you are eyeing that same-age male associate, you can bet he will look for someone younger.
In short, if you want to date a man in the same profession, seeking someone a few years older will be your best bet, not unless you look 10 years younger than your age.
I can spot 'real' from 'fake' love
Fake love can look like the real deal.
Female brains often refuse to function logically when faced with a cute guy with the sweetest words made at the perfect time.
Attractiveness plays a big role when it comes to choosing a potential partner
Years of practice nor knowledge of the law will not make you more intelligent when it comes to matters of the heart.
Just like years of legal schooling will never give anyone breeding and manners.
Be careful, no one has the monopoly in spotting real from fake love. Some people are good at faking love, it takes years to unmask them.
The crazy idea that you don't really need a man, just a sp** donor
My lady lawyer friends often say they don't need a man, they just need a baby daddy. It is a bit selfish I think. How about your future baby's right to a family or having a father figure to look up to?
I know you are financially capable of rearing a child on your own but it takes more than that.
If you have a mindset like this, you would only view a date as potential sperm donor, not a very good way to start any kind of relationship.
Finding a partner for the sole purpose of having a child will often not end well. I think you are better off getting the same from a surrogate or the sperm bank.
In summary, here are the 5 reasons to bust your chances of meeting Mr. Right;
#1 I am the catch
#2 Mr. Right will find me
#3 There are too many fishes (single male lawyers) in the sea
#4 I can spot fake love miles away
#5 I don't need a man, just a baby
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